I ask myself this question all the time. And most often is all comes down to fear.
Fear. It’s what usually keeps me on the sidelines. The one not taking chances, not pursuing my dreams in a full-on way. It keeps me from chasing my dreams and living a safe (ok stuck) life.
I wouldn’t say I’m an overly fearful person. I’m not afraid of spiders, heights, or flying. But sometimes I’m very afraid of taking small chances. Afraid to pursue my dreams and set goals. My biggest fears are failing and/or making a fool of myself. I suppose that is common. I”m not as much afraid of the failing part as much as the people knowing I failed. I worry about what people think entirely too much.
In recent years my some of my dreams have gotten bigger than my fear. Big enough to get my attention and force me to make room for them.
I went to Italy alone. Because the thought of not going when I had an opportunity was worse than the thought of walking through that fear. And yet, I freak out a bit about going to the gym by myself.
I’m this close (…) to becoming a full-time entrepreneur. I have to design. Have to, it’s really all I want to do. Well besides hangout with the grandbaby and watch Justified. Years ago I didn’t think I had the entrepreneur gene. But really I just hadn’t discovered my passion yet.
And the day came when the risk of remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. –Anis Nin
When I feel down I think about all the ways I’ve been brave over the last few years.
And yet, there are areas that I’m still very stuck. Still afraid to try. Or more so, afraid to fail.
I’ve been pondering this for a while now and there are two areas where fear has gotten a hold of me: love and weight. It’s not a new realization but I’ve decided it’s time to work on it.
Last week I went to a conference in Denver, which brought up a whole lot of fear and social anxiety. I missed a few opportunities to meet people I admire. But then it became too uncomfortable to miss opportunities and started introducing myself even when I was scared. Sure I may have babbled a bit but I met some really awesome people. And those days are going on my brave list.
One of my biggest take aways from the conference came from Seth Godin (one of the ones I missed meeting) .
When you feel the fear dance with it. –Seth Godin
I like to dance.